i just joined my other server and i see player list and why i am not server?
i host 2 server by duplicating cs2d folder

Uhhhh , we can't really help you with that description , but if you are using a duplicated CS2D folder and running both of them in the same port , you will only be able to find one . try changing the port for the second duplicated server to another unused port

This question is easy. You are not playing as the server. The game will see you as a player with 1~2 ping.

You duplicated the cs2d folder, hosted a server from one of them and joined from the other? Then yes, you are not the server host on the second one. Use rcon for that purpose

oh, thanks y'all