English Social phobia tips?

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04.03.15 02:59:48 pm
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Dynamite07
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It looks that I got social phobia, do you guys have any tips for me?
04.03.15 03:07:44 pm
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KimKart
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04.03.15 03:11:18 pm
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Fraizeraust
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Your description is poorly made because if you have social phobia (also common said as Social anxiety disorder) this anxiety disorder may differ from the persom to person.
What i mean about this, is just saying that i have a social anxiety and that all, this aren't enough informations to explain your social anxiety, your siptoms and the cause that you have it.
If you have severe social anxiety, then you need to seek some treatments like psyschotherapy or any kind of treatment related to this problem.
04.03.15 03:41:24 pm
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@user Fraizeraust: Really tried to make it short as you know i would have too much to talk
e.g.: shaking without knowing way when under social pressure.
Hard meeting new people.
Think others are making fun, judging me...
Never got something to talk unless texting.
Fear of embarrassing myself.
Can't smoke weed because sometimes it gives me a schizophrenia attack having hallucinations of others making fun of me...
Never happy...
I don't have courage to ask my parents for a psychologist
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Started 2 years ago before that i had depression for 3 years.
04.03.15 05:16:07 pm
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Dinamyte07 has written:
I don't have courage to ask my parents for a psychologist

You mustn't be like that, you must have courage and ask your parents for that problem, because you can't handle this thing only yourself and this has a big impact in your future life if you don't solve this and this makes you more lonely and more feared.
And if someone is making fun of you, just don't pay attention to them or is judging you without knowing you, just ignore those people.
Everyone have such dificultness like me, especialy about someone is making fun of me, then i just ignore and don't pay attention to them (yeah, not every people can do this easily) but i usually do when someone is making fun of me.
And don't think that in this world there's nothing that makes you happy, there are some things or such that may make you happy this depends on you.
And solving this by using drugs like weed and other kinds of drugs i recommended to NOT use drugs, if your parents hear that you do that to solve the problem about this anxiety they feel more bad and some drugs have a strong effect and that makes you addict easily so i wouldn't recommended it.
Good luck about this and hope you will have some friends that may understand your feelings.
04.03.15 06:09:28 pm
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How about some beer?
Not saying you should drink alot, 750ml shouldnt make u crazy or sick.
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04.03.15 06:38:37 pm
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user Evaldas has written:
How about some beer?

Beer is the ultimate solution for everything and everyone.

user Evaldas has written:
750ml shouldnt make u crazy or sick.

By the way this has been written I assume you just become of legal age to drink.

user Fraizeraust has written:
i recommended to NOT use drugs

Try it before you judge. You'll change your mind.

@user Dynamite07: Go outside. Social phobia is just a mindset anyway. They give names to everything nowadays. As long as you want to change you shall. No need to ask a forum for tips, the outside world shall grow on you eventually.
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04.03.15 06:56:01 pm
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Dynamite07
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@user Fraizeraust: people dont make fun of me but i think they do .-. and i don't use drugs, at first it was ok now it only makes it worst.

@user Evaldas: going to try drink more next time

@user Yates: of course i want to change but if i lack of confidence and social skills i cant turn into a extroverted
"@user Yates: Try it before you judge. You'll change your mind."
04.03.15 07:15:49 pm
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You shouldn´t use your head so much. Try to think as least as possible. Think about your feelings ("Is it warm enough for me?", "Am I hungry?", etc.).
If things going worse then just stop and take a big breath. Do you see any danger?
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04.03.15 07:16:53 pm
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@user Dynamite07: Isn't it obvious, find someone with similarities. As in, hobbies, games, sports etc. No one can resist to share their opinion on a subject someone else enjoys.

Someone who plays games on the PC, ask what games they play, eventually you'll be gang-banging mobs in an MMO.

If you can't even do this I'm afraid you are a negative person (naysayer, pessimist, whatever you want to call it) and no one can help you because you don't want help; you want someone to do it for you, and no one else can be social for you.
04.03.15 11:51:15 pm
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Dynamite07
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@user Bowlinghead: Thank you. Maybe that tip could help

@user Yates: the only guy i found like that changed country,
the others smell bad i need a lot more confidence to meet new people when i can barely socialize with the friends i have.
05.03.15 09:50:24 am
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user Dynamite07 has written:
the others smell bad

Oh God..

user Yates has written:
If you can't even do this I'm afraid you are a negative person (naysayer, pessimist, whatever you want to call it) and no one can help you because you don't want help; you want someone to do it for you, and no one else can be social for you.

Just found the source of your problem.
05.03.15 11:10:12 am
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do whatever make you positive, thats the key for been happy
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05.03.15 11:39:41 am
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Do not even think - all people are monsters.
05.03.15 01:25:52 pm
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it really might not be easy as it sounds to do things when you have this kind of serious sickness because there is no one but you to fix this up.
you have to start and do things so that you will be cured. i don't think it's possible to be completely cured of anxiety but you can keep yourself calm at all times, you will feel accomplished.
hell, even people without any kind of anxiety can feel embarrassed while talking to strangers.
but yeah, if you can't really talk to your close relatives or at least if you are not comfortable while talking to them, it is indeed a very serious problem and assistance of a professional can help.
what about when you're alone, do you have this kind of uncomfort while you're alone?
05.03.15 01:49:30 pm
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@user 0a: I love to be alone because I feel much more conformable unless I just arrived from a party or tha, that make me think how people treated me for not being able to have as much fun as them meeting people and picking girls. it is really depressing.
05.03.15 02:24:20 pm
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user Yates has written:
user Evaldas has written:
How about some beer?

Beer is the ultimate solution for everything and everyone.

user Evaldas has written:
750ml shouldnt make u crazy or sick.

By the way this has been written I assume you just become of legal age to drink.

user Fraizeraust has written:
i recommended to NOT use drugs

Try it before you judge. You'll change your mind.

@user Dynamite07: Go outside. Social phobia is just a mindset anyway. They give names to everything nowadays. As long as you want to change you shall. No need to ask a forum for tips, the outside world shall grow on you eventually.


Are you sure it is a good idea to tell someone who has Social Anxiety to drink each time...well each time he has anxiety? Getting drunk makes you only dull. It does not solve your problems. It only makes them temporarily disappear.

Trust me. Making him a first class alcoholic ain't gonna solve anything.
I would suggest trying psychotherapy or something.

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I love to be alone because I feel much more conformable unless I just arrived from a party or tha, that make me think how people treated me for not being able to have as much fun as them meeting people and picking girls. it is really depressing.


I guess your problem is that you think too much about what other people think about you. In the end it does not matter. What is the worst that could happen? They will not speak to you?

Trust me. Person that does not want to speak to you is not a friend.

Try to be yourself and do not think about anyone's opinion. You are the most important person.
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05.03.15 02:29:40 pm
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05.03.15 02:43:50 pm
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user erik9631 has written:
I guess your problem is that you think too much about what other people think about you. In the end it does not matter. What is the worst that could happen? They will not speak to you?

You my friend, have no idea how that feels.
05.03.15 02:59:28 pm
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@user 0a:

Could you please stop being judgmental?

If there is a person that does not share my opinions, topics, and I have nothing in common with him, why would I care if he speaks to me or not?

He should look for a group of people that he shares something with.

If you are a nerd, do you speak with bodybuilders? Do you walk up to them and ask them to play an online game with you?
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